Mystic, Mom, Mentor

Welcome! Rachel here, I'm delighted you are too.

I write for seekers with colorful pasts (or futures).  As a mentor, I specialize in helping individuals answer The Big Questions for themselves. Just a few of those:

  • What is my purpose?
  • What is the point of all this?
  • Why does it matter what I do with my life?
  • What risks are worth taking?
  • Whose advice should I follow?
  • What are my actual needs, and how do I meet them?

I once heard hell described as "at the end of your life, shaking hands with the person you could have been." With that in mind, I guess it's fair to say that I am devoted to helping others escape hell.


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On Being a Mystic

I'd like to tell you a quick story.

Back in 2003 I was arriving home from work one evening when I heard a voice say something really random and curious. I’d just gotten off the tube, London’s subway system, near where I was living.

As I entered the garden and walked toward the side entrance, I wasn’t thinking about anything in particular when all of the sudden I heard a voice say, “You are a mystic.” I remember putting my key in the lock and thinking, “A what? Huh, I wonder what that means.”

Oddly, even though I thought about it for a few days, I don’t remember googling, “What is a mystic?” I just sort of let it go.

My Hero Girl

In August of 2012 I left my husband and the father of my children. I rented a bedroom above a garage a few blocks away from our apartment. The kids were one and two years old. I thought I was sparing our family unnecessary upheaval. Surely no need to hire lawyers or make extra drama. I came every morning and resumed my stay-at-home-mommying. Late in the evening, he returned from work, and I returned to my little bedroom.

Then one night two social workers called to tell me I'd just been indicated in a child abuse report. The next morning the bank accounts were empty. And my nightmare began in earnest. He hired a nanny. I had to find a job. Distraught doesn't begin to describe my inner world. I was being investigated for child abuse. I couldn't eat or sleep or function properly. Except, I had to. I had to show that I was a good, capable mom.

For months I did not sleep in the same place as my babies. Speaking that fact made my throat choke and tears stream down my face. There were moments when I felt confident about my choices and direction. But whenever I felt like torturing myself I would ask, "What kind of mother doesn't sleep in the same place as her babies?" And then I would answer myself by falling apart.

Tuesdays in Jail

Every week I meet with a group of murderers, rapists, pedophiles, and other assorted criminal offenders. We sit around tables in a classroom on the fourth floor of a maximum security jail. And we talk about well-being.

For months I never bothered to find out why each of my participants were locked up. I assumed most were for drug related charges. Why I assumed that, I can’t say for sure. Naiveté, most likely. Or maybe because the labels “murderer,” “rapist,” or “pedophile,” invoke images of monsters, not the individuals I talk and listen and joke with.

I admit, when I finally googled each name on my rosters, I paused. More than once I wanted to turn to someone and say, “He doesn’t really look like that,” pointing to the mug shot on my screen. But there was no one with me.

A Series of Confessions

My friend Bill went missing earlier this summer. His car was discovered in a wooded area several miles from home. His body not long after. He left a simple note with instructions for whom to notify. When the police called, they explained my contact info was also in his wallet and could I answer some questions.

“How did you know him?”

We met when I started waiting tables and bartending at a tavern in Rye, NY two years ago. He was a regular in the truest sense. Every afternoon at 3 o’clock he took his place at the bar. He sipped his two Budweisers slowly, alternately offering pleasant conversation and comfortable TV viewing silence.